Expectation and Comparison, known evils within!!!

These are some of the basic things I have learnt to be happy. Expectation and Comparison; should be out of mind, life and practice to be happy.

Equations:

Expectation creates Hope which when broken causes disappointment, this leads to depression and issues

Expectation = Hope when broken causes disappointment => depression & issues

Comparison leads to Jealousy which leads to anger and hatred.

Comparison = Jealousy => anger & hatred

Can someone be happy with depression, anger or hatred?

This is not possible. So, one should start practicing in their life not to expect from or compare with others. This is not as easy as said, I still did not master this art but I do realize every time I compare or expect from someone what I am heading into which gives me a little control over my emotions and reactions. This is something that is seen a lot in Indian culture. Most parents tend to compare their children with their neighbors kids, teachers compare their students with one another. They feel this will help the kids in improving them while this can adversely effect and make the kids against each other. There will be jealousy and anger in them. When they grow up with this anger and jealous it is neither going to help them nor the society. Childhood of kids should not be destroyed as a result of these known evils, kids must be brought up with love, care and positive attitude. I am very lucky in this aspect, my family has always been there for me, understanding each and everything. I was mostly never compared as far as I can think of and I was brought up with all that are mentioned above. I am not a genius but I did achieve a little in life. I am proud of what i have done so far and am working on what i have planned. I heard my family say they are proud of me and it is mutual. Thats mostly what matters.

Personally, I used to take things too serious, get more attached and start expecting from others but I realized that in this process I was not only making myself unhappy but was also bothering the other person. I was even told that I expect too much. After all this I started to practice what I mentioned above. Comparison with another person; be it a colleague, friend or family member leads to jealousy. Man is greedy by nature and when comparison with others starts it hits the peak. I used to compare a lot with others in education, career, salary, cars and property but this never helped me grow but only succeeded in damaging my self-confidence. That is when I decided I should concentrate on developing myself and be happy on the growth of others but never to compare. I practice it today and it helps me to be happy and to have a better relationship with the other person.

Ultimately it’s the relationship that matters; do not lose on it by not being able to overcome these evils that exist in every man. The Bible says,"Each of you must examine your own actions. Then you can be proud of your own accomplishments without comparing yourself to others." (Galatians 6:4 )

Have a happy time.