This is one of the first taboo topics I would be writing about. I still remember the dialogue from one of the Hin-glish movie (Bollywood movie made in Hollywood, a mix of Hindi and English). The dialogue goes thus “we Indians do not speak about sex” which is funny. I guess the times are changing. I do not know what others think about me writing on this topic, doesn’t really matter what others think. Even though I do not intend on or like to compare between men and women, just to show the facts I have learnt about I have written about both women and men. Any numbers are from the sources quoted other information is from my personal observation and experience.
When speaking about men one of the first things I heard people say is men always think about sex not true, I do not agree with this I definitely agree that the sex drive of men is much higher than women but that doesn’t mean they always think about it. Also I noticed that men are more expressive physically, they show their love and affection by holding the other person, patting then, rubbing their back, hugging or kissing. These need not necessarily mean sexual gestures. Women tend to misunderstand these sometimes which cause problems. I have heard women say that they tend to address any man they know as brother so men do not get any other ideas about their relationship or expectations, that’s wrong. Men have higher sexual drive does not mean they look at every woman like that. Heard a lot that men usually are up for casual sex, I completely disagree with that. Men are not, I am saying this not only from my personal experience but from what I have seen. Women get into a relationship much more on the basis of emotions but men get more serious in a relationship after they get physical (there are always exceptions but this is usually how I have noticed it work) and by physical I do not mean it to be sex, it can be the first touch, a kiss or a hug even.
"Men are very rigid and specific about who they become aroused by, who they want to have sex with, who they fall in love with," says J. Michael Bailey, a Northwestern University sex researcher and co-author with Chivers on the study.1 Women can detach very easily from anything and everything around them atleast the few that I have come across. Men find doing the same much harder. You see women moving on with their life much easier than men. There is a small percent of men that make all the men look bad. Women tend to compare everything and everyone with something they already had in their life or that someone else they know of have in their lives. Certain bad experiences with others do not mean every man is the same and that they will all do the same. Men compare too but not to the extent women do.
Coming back to the topic, I read some facts on this. They are as follows:
2. http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200706/five-shocking-stats-about-men-and-sex
When speaking about men one of the first things I heard people say is men always think about sex not true, I do not agree with this I definitely agree that the sex drive of men is much higher than women but that doesn’t mean they always think about it. Also I noticed that men are more expressive physically, they show their love and affection by holding the other person, patting then, rubbing their back, hugging or kissing. These need not necessarily mean sexual gestures. Women tend to misunderstand these sometimes which cause problems. I have heard women say that they tend to address any man they know as brother so men do not get any other ideas about their relationship or expectations, that’s wrong. Men have higher sexual drive does not mean they look at every woman like that. Heard a lot that men usually are up for casual sex, I completely disagree with that. Men are not, I am saying this not only from my personal experience but from what I have seen. Women get into a relationship much more on the basis of emotions but men get more serious in a relationship after they get physical (there are always exceptions but this is usually how I have noticed it work) and by physical I do not mean it to be sex, it can be the first touch, a kiss or a hug even.
"Men are very rigid and specific about who they become aroused by, who they want to have sex with, who they fall in love with," says J. Michael Bailey, a Northwestern University sex researcher and co-author with Chivers on the study.1 Women can detach very easily from anything and everything around them atleast the few that I have come across. Men find doing the same much harder. You see women moving on with their life much easier than men. There is a small percent of men that make all the men look bad. Women tend to compare everything and everyone with something they already had in their life or that someone else they know of have in their lives. Certain bad experiences with others do not mean every man is the same and that they will all do the same. Men compare too but not to the extent women do.
Coming back to the topic, I read some facts on this. They are as follows:
- 54% of men think about sex every day or several times a day, 43% a few times a week or a few times a month and 4% less than once a month – Kinsey Report (Sexual Behavior in the Human Male) 2
- Among men the sex drive remains the same and does not change based on how long they have been in a relationship but a woman’s sex drive begins to drop the instant she gets into a secure relationship. This is quoted “Women’s sex drive is initially high to facilitate pair bonding. Desire for tenderness showed the opposite trend. Ninety percent of women craved tenderness but men in relationships for ten years only 25% hoped for the same from their partners. “
- Sexual arousal in men is straight forward and predictable but in women it is supposed to be really complicated. (Scented candles, romantic music etc)
- Again quoted “Among men who are part of a couple, 75% report that they always have an orgasm, as opposed to 26% of the women. And not only is there a difference in reality, there's one in perception, too. While the men's female partners reported their rate of orgasm accurately, the women's male partners reported that they believed their female partners had orgasms 45% of the time.”1
2. http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200706/five-shocking-stats-about-men-and-sex
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