This is a book written by Sherry Argov. I was introduced to this book by one of my friends ( someone closer to me than a friend). I never realised what she was trying to say to me. I did read through this book to try and understand that. I have not read any other work of Sherry Argov and so i can only comment on what few i have read in this book of hers. I am also not making these reviews or comments as a man. These are very neutral and unbiased thoughts i have.
I think a book like this focusses to show women that nice women have no chance of survival in this world or that they can never be happy with their life, rather the men in their life. I dont think this is right. Not every woman has to be a "bitch" (as mentioned in the book) to lead a happy life and to have her man with her happily. In a relationship both man and woman have to compromise and there would be sometime in the relationship where the one person might walk all over the other person. This doesnt mean one person should become cold and cruel and start manipulating the other person. If this attempt is made then to me the relationship starts becoming more of a tug-of-war than being a relationship.
There should be no "I" in a relationship, it should be "We" but being humans sometimes we get carried away. Finding our way back and making things better for each other is what will lead to their happiness. Do not let someone that came into your life that never loved you rule your life and how you treat other people in your life. This is wrong. Even though i am saying this i find it really hard to follow it. I am trying my best though. I still know that there are a few people from my past ( even though i want them to be in my present that is not working out and its ok as long as they are happy) that actually make me think about a lot of things in my present. They from their interaction with me have influence on the way i do certain things or the way i behave sometimes not good and so i will change it. As long as this influence is good and makes life better for everyone it is good but otherwise this needs to change.
"Dont be available 100% to a person is one of the steps listed in the book", thats not right. In a relationship i would give my 100% to the other person. I have always and i will continue to do that. It hurts sometimes when the other person doesnot respond the same way but love is supposed to be unconditional. I would leave everything right in the middle of it and go to meet the person if i love and care for that person as much. This does not show my weakness, it only shows my love for the person. I have done this in the past and i will do this in future. The worst pain would be when you know that they are being influenced by books like this which is causing the heartache in a relationship or a budding relationship. "Do not cook a full course of meal is another thing mentioned in the book. Rule of thumb - If it is warm, he will eat it, the rest is wasted effort" this is another quote from the book, who says that it is wasted effort? This is so misleading. It is not, every second you spend for someone you love is worth it. Its so worth all the effort, its all the love you have for the other person.
Attraction Principle # 1: Anything a person chases in life runs away.
Is this is an attraction principle? Principles like this written in books are what mislead people. No, anything a person chases in life need not run away. A person has to know and make the choice somewhere. If that is what is good for the person and thats what the person deserves they will definitely find/get it and have it for the rest of their life. This statement is actually twisted, it means to me that, if you chase something in life with fear of losing it or with doubt about it or even to gain an upper hand you will lose it. Be your own self and give it all you can to get it, you will get it.
There is a lot i can write on this book but i would like to conclude this saying, "this book is for women that want to seduce men, not for women that want a long lasting relationship with someone."
Lastly, books are a very powerful means of reaching out to people, please do not abuse this power by writing and publishing content that would mislead people and spoil relationships. I only hope whoever is reading this book or using it as some kind of guide realize that this is not how relationships work. A relationship is not just about giving, neither is it just about taking but its about give and take. This give and take cannot be bargained on. Both parties have to compromise and understand. Its all about sharing.
Love is supposed to be unconditional, it might be really hard to love someone unconditionally but not impossible. Try to do that and not fight to gain an upper hand over the other person. Love, like any other feeling will definitely hurt sometimes but to me its all worth. I am writing this to show my feelings, this is completely just for me and nothing to do with anyone else.
This is not to offend anyone but are just my own thoughts.
I think a book like this focusses to show women that nice women have no chance of survival in this world or that they can never be happy with their life, rather the men in their life. I dont think this is right. Not every woman has to be a "bitch" (as mentioned in the book) to lead a happy life and to have her man with her happily. In a relationship both man and woman have to compromise and there would be sometime in the relationship where the one person might walk all over the other person. This doesnt mean one person should become cold and cruel and start manipulating the other person. If this attempt is made then to me the relationship starts becoming more of a tug-of-war than being a relationship.
There should be no "I" in a relationship, it should be "We" but being humans sometimes we get carried away. Finding our way back and making things better for each other is what will lead to their happiness. Do not let someone that came into your life that never loved you rule your life and how you treat other people in your life. This is wrong. Even though i am saying this i find it really hard to follow it. I am trying my best though. I still know that there are a few people from my past ( even though i want them to be in my present that is not working out and its ok as long as they are happy) that actually make me think about a lot of things in my present. They from their interaction with me have influence on the way i do certain things or the way i behave sometimes not good and so i will change it. As long as this influence is good and makes life better for everyone it is good but otherwise this needs to change.
"Dont be available 100% to a person is one of the steps listed in the book", thats not right. In a relationship i would give my 100% to the other person. I have always and i will continue to do that. It hurts sometimes when the other person doesnot respond the same way but love is supposed to be unconditional. I would leave everything right in the middle of it and go to meet the person if i love and care for that person as much. This does not show my weakness, it only shows my love for the person. I have done this in the past and i will do this in future. The worst pain would be when you know that they are being influenced by books like this which is causing the heartache in a relationship or a budding relationship. "Do not cook a full course of meal is another thing mentioned in the book. Rule of thumb - If it is warm, he will eat it, the rest is wasted effort" this is another quote from the book, who says that it is wasted effort? This is so misleading. It is not, every second you spend for someone you love is worth it. Its so worth all the effort, its all the love you have for the other person.
Attraction Principle # 1: Anything a person chases in life runs away.
Is this is an attraction principle? Principles like this written in books are what mislead people. No, anything a person chases in life need not run away. A person has to know and make the choice somewhere. If that is what is good for the person and thats what the person deserves they will definitely find/get it and have it for the rest of their life. This statement is actually twisted, it means to me that, if you chase something in life with fear of losing it or with doubt about it or even to gain an upper hand you will lose it. Be your own self and give it all you can to get it, you will get it.
There is a lot i can write on this book but i would like to conclude this saying, "this book is for women that want to seduce men, not for women that want a long lasting relationship with someone."
Lastly, books are a very powerful means of reaching out to people, please do not abuse this power by writing and publishing content that would mislead people and spoil relationships. I only hope whoever is reading this book or using it as some kind of guide realize that this is not how relationships work. A relationship is not just about giving, neither is it just about taking but its about give and take. This give and take cannot be bargained on. Both parties have to compromise and understand. Its all about sharing.
Love is supposed to be unconditional, it might be really hard to love someone unconditionally but not impossible. Try to do that and not fight to gain an upper hand over the other person. Love, like any other feeling will definitely hurt sometimes but to me its all worth. I am writing this to show my feelings, this is completely just for me and nothing to do with anyone else.
This is not to offend anyone but are just my own thoughts.
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